It’s human nature to want to “fix” people; to turn your perpetually depressed friend into a happy and balanced human being once again because you see their potential and miss who they used to be. Sometimes as hard as you try, these people resist your help and seem to enjoy being negative. You don’t have to be the hero, don’t feel bad about cutting ties when that person is no good for you.
Sometimes you have to accept the truth and stop wasting time on the wrong people.
Many times I’ve mistakenly let somebody into my world that I probably shouldn’t have, just because I saw the good in them. It was incredibly exhausting, and dulled my sparkle. Not only was my own sparkle dulled, but I ended up putting out more than I got back in almost all of these friendships…
Toxic people will pollute everything around them. Don’t hesitate. Fumigate.―Mandy Hale
…and what happens when you keep giving and get nothing back? You end up empty, my friend. And empty is what I had become.
If someone makes you miserable more than they make you happy, it doesn’t matter how much you love them. You need to let them go.
Choose your friends wisely, and be a good one. Don’t use love as a reason to stay; cutting them out of your life doesn’t mean that you are no longer allowed to love and care for somebody!
Be with people that bring out the best in you, not the stress in you.
Toxic relationships, poisonous pen pals, and people that hang over you like a dark ominous cloud have no place in our lives. How can we possibly rise above and continue on our way with the weight of an entire person on our backs?
Toxic relationships not only make us unhappy; they corrupt our attitudes and dispositions in ways that undermine healthier relationships and prevent us from realizing how much better things can be.― Michael Josephson
I’ve noticed that a lot of my negative former friends would pin the blame on other people. No matter what was going on, they mentally painted themselves as the victim. Everybody was out to get them.
A self-absorbed person can only see the faults of others. But they are often colorblind to their own.―Unknown
When you run across these types of people, be wary. In my experience, as much as I tried to help free them from this, there was always a new villain in their lives. I was never ahead of the game, there were more and more reasons for them to be negative and eventually I was consumed and had become bitter as well.
You can’t litter negativity everywhere and wonder why you’ve got a trashy life.―Unknown
In the aftermath of cutting ties, harboring any ill-will regarding this particular friend is also toxic to your well being. It’s perfectly okay to care for them and wish them well from a distance. Don’t hold grudges! Forgive, and let live.
8. We would do ourselves a tremendous favor by letting go of the people who poison our spirit.―Unknown
After all is said and done, please don’t partake in the friend-break-up after party by throwing your good luck and happy life (no matter how true it may be) in their, or anybody else’s, face. By doing that, you’re not freeing yourself from the negative relationship. You’ve got nothing to prove, it’s not contest.
The past has passed, let it fucking go.–Unknown
Unfortunately, you can almost guarantee that when the friend is no longer attached to your back, your former pal will have made a villain out of you, too. That’s the way it goes sometimes; live and let live. You are free now, hakuna matata.
Buy a gift for a dog, and you’ll be amazed at the way it will dance and swerve its tail, but if don’t have anything to offer to it, it won’t even recognize your arrival; such are the attributes of fake friends.