Today is my birthday! I’m going to celebrate by eating a single cupcake; I haven’t had cupcakes in so long because of that whole low-carb thing. I’ve been doing very well lately in all areas of my life, if I want a cupcake on my birthday, guess what? I’m gettin’ it! 🙂
How old do I look? I’m not tellin’! Time goes by so freaking fast. People, things, and opportunities come and go. It seems like we learn something new every day that helps us navigate through our lives harder, better, faster, stronger. Yes, like the Daft Punk song.
Without giving away the age I’ve become too easily, here are 27 things I’ve realized over the years:
1. At some point, you reach the age where you don’t care much about what people think of you. I’ve reached that age. You’ll get there, I promise.
2. On a related note: we all have those moments when we think everyone in a room is judging us. I’ll let you in on a little secret: they’re not thinking about you at all. They’re thinking about themselves.
3. Besides… It’s none of your business how other people view you. Their thoughts and opinions belong to them, you don’t need to know.
4. I’ve realized confidence is incredibly attractive.
“Confidence is not, ‘They will like me.’ it’s ‘I’ll be fine if they don’t.’ ” — Unknown
5. Set goals, and do something every day that will further you on your path to success.
6. Tomorrow never comes. Do the thing now.
7. Planning, thinking, talking about the thing, is not doing the thing.
8. More on things: we waste so much time thinking about the wrong things. We get worried about things that won’t matter next week, next month, or 10 years down the road. Choose your battles, even the mental ones.
9. I spend far too much time on my phone. I’m keeping my mind occupied but what are other people seeing me doing? Sitting there, unresponsive, like a zombie. These are the people that want to spend time with me, and I’m spending my time with this… object. I don’t like this, and I’m setting out to change it.
10. Know your worth, and don’t settle for less. If something is not good for you, let it go. End. Of. Story.
11. Related: learn to say no.
“Don’t set yourself on fire to keep other people warm.” — Unknown
12. You need to be honest when weaseling your way out of plans. “No, I’m not going to be able to be there for girls night. I need a self-care day so I’m going to take a bath and watch Bambi.” Don’t be the flaky, excuse making friend.
13. Love your pets. You’ve got friends, family and a life outside of your home. They don’t, you’re their entire world. Play with them, and pat them on the head as much as you can because one day you’re not going to be able to.
14. Apologize for your mistakes, always.
15. Talk about feelings, don’t bottle them up.
16. Sometimes, you just need to cry. A wave of relief will wash over you.
17. Girls, support your fellow ladies.
18. Learn all kinds of things: learn how to drive both automatic and manual, learn how to use both Mac and Windows, learn both Andriod and iPhone, I don’t care. Just learn and never stop, all sides of everything and anything you can.
19. We have a habit of romanticizing our past. Our memories tell us that it was better back then, we were cuter back then. This isn’t necessarily true, and I suspect tomfoolery. Be grateful for what you’ve got now.
20. You can literally create the life you want. You have the power to choose how you feel; you are in control of everything. If you don’t like something, change it and stop making excuses. “One day, I’ll leave this city and get the job of my dreams.” One day is now, get up and get it girl.
21. Money can’t buy happiness straight out, but I can’t remember a time that money made me sad.
22. You’ve got something different to offer the world; you don’t need to water yourself down one bit. There’s a place for you, and if you haven’t found it yet you’re always welcome here with me.
23. Study people and really try to understand why they do the things they do. You’ll grow to be so much more understanding.
24. Don’t ever be ashamed of your music choices, or any choices for that matter. You shouldn’t be made to feel guilty over so-called “guilty pleasures”. I’m proudly listening to a 90’s pop playlist as I type, no shame.
Current song: Britney Spears – Stronger
25. This should be a given, but don’t bully anybody. Life is too short and we already have enough against us as it is.
26. I’m happier when I’m being productive. I can’t sit and watch tv for hours on end.
27. Don’t fear change, welcome it.
Yes, I went there with the Lizzie McGuire gifs. She was just as embarrassingly awkward as I was growing up. Remember what I said about “guilty pleasures”? I still have season 1 on DVD. I didn’t buy it when I was a kid, I bought it just a couple years ago! HA!
What are some things you’ve learned throughout the years? I’d love to hear them. I’m always up for an opportunity to grow! 🙂