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Come here often? The Haunted Housewife is my comfy corner of the internet; and while it doesn’t really seem as such, letting you in to read what I’ve written is an intimate experience. You’re essentially reading my diary. Did you know that?
Peeling Back The Layers
Oh, blogging. My craving to learn the ins and outs of a subject consumes me, and I read a lot of books. Knowledge is power–it really, truly is. These eyes have passed over their fair share of books, articles, and e-courses thrown out into cyberspace to “help” you build a “successful” blog.
Many times I’ve stumbled into the dark alley, and right into the arms of a few disingenuous bloggers hoping to make a quick buck off of the young hopefuls. A lot of blogger-to-blogger content is immensely helpful. I’ve even blogged about blogging myself but without the intention of selling you an e-book you don’t need.
To me, my readers are my friends and I will share what I’ve learned with you for free.
Cookie-Cutter Content Creators
Most of the advice I’ve gathered reads as if it’s the blueprint to blogging success. If everybody is following those instructions, nobody is standing out. Pro-tip: there is no straight-forward blueprint to blogging success.
Blogging has it’s own set of “rules” that that are meant to guide you in the direction of more traffic, higher engagement or whatever it is that bloggers crave. What do you crave?
Each blogger’s success is unique to that person, and that kind of magic you can’t replicate by following the rules. Do you really need me to tell you not to follow the status quo? ✨
Earth Shaking, Rule Breaking
My blog is an ever-changing piece of myself that grows when I grow and morphs into whatever I’m feeling at the time. When it comes to my blog, numbers don’t fulfill me–I feel successful when I pour my emotions into my writing. That high I get when the words I type match the words I feel… that’s what I crave. In my opinion, it doesn’t get more real or more raw than that.
My beef with blogging has been snowballing since the game started for me, but I hinted at my frustration with it at the end of this post.
Rules from the Blogger Rule Book, and how I’m breaking them:
- Maintaining a posting schedule for consistency — If I’m feeling uninspired, find me in the woods. Quality over quantity or consistency, always.
- Sticking to 2-3 subjects — My interests are all over the place, and I’m not the type to box myself in. Are you only interested in only 2-3 things? Of course not.
- People pleasing — Oof! This is a big one and it covers a lot of itty bitty things, for example: the use of family-friendly language and content, steering clear of unpopular opinions, etc. Wait a minute–am I blogging for you, or for me? 7 billion people on this planet and you’re telling me I’m going to be shunned for talking about n00dz or saying fuck on my own blog every once in a while?
That’s a big ol’ NOPE with all the bells and whistles. I’m very much done with the people pleasing.
If you’re a numbers person, I do notice an upward trend the more I run my mouth. People can tell when a blogger is being genuine and you best believe they can tell when you’re watering yourself down.
Look, I’m not going to tell you how to run your life, your career or your blog. I only want you to be completely proud of what you’ve accomplished for yourself.